This year I participated in a gift tree for the children of workers in my area. It was fun to go out and buy for young children and especially to wrap up the gifts. I don’t know why, but there is such joy in wrapping and seeing a wrapped gift.…
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Set Yourself Free
Recently I was triggered by a situation. The situation does not matter. What matters is that I was triggered and fell into the rabbit hole of anger, self-pity, depression, guilt, and the desire for confrontation and revenge. This was not an enjoyable experience. I felt wronged and victimized, and felt…
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Focus on What You Want
Like many, I have drastically cut down on my Facebook time. Most of what I see posted is based in fear, negativity, and attacking the “other.” No matter what your political or life views are, it is easy to see people of all types feeding into this fear. In fact,…
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It Ain’t Over Til It’s Over
As we come up to the holidays and into fourth quarter in the world of business, the morale of those in job transition I work with becomes lower and lower. They focus on the belief that hiring slows down at the end of the year. They think because their education,…
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Changes
This election was difficult on a lot of people. And we made it more difficult on ourselves. Instead of a civilized debate, we made the campaign into a sixth-grade playground with name calling and bullying – on both sides. The results of the election were a shock to half the…
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Maybe It’s You
Along with my own business, I also work part-time for Right Management helping individuals in job transition. We work on the stress of job loss, determining what they want next in their career, and then the nuts and bolts of landing that next perfect job. All of my candidates have…
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To Create Change, Sometimes We Need a New View of Reality
“You never change things by fighting the existing reality. To change something, build a new model that makes the existing model obsolete.” – Buckminster Fuller The past months leading up to the election have been contentious. I have written at least one veiled post about the election, but I have…
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When Responsibility Doesn’t Pay
After a year in Mexico, we have a much better read on the culture. When you make eye contact with anyone, say “hola” and wait for a warm greeting in reply. If a repairman says he will be there tomorrow, he will probably show up three to five days later.…
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The Simplest Behavior that Matters
Buzzzz. What really? I am tense again?? Breath. Focus. Ah, back in the groove. One of the things I work with my clients on is awareness, especially awareness around stress. The problem with stress is we often don’t notice it until it causes issues. By becoming aware of our stress…
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This is Why I Don’t Like Labels
Don’t you just hate it? When you state something as a fact, and then the fact changes? Here is a case in point. Throughout my book From Type A to Type Me: How to Stop “Doing” Life and Start Living It I talk about why not to label things and…