“I want to move, but I need to have a job in the new city first.” “I want a relationship, and I’ll get one as soon as I lose ten pounds.” “I’ll pursue my passion, as soon as I have enough money in the bank.” Again and again I hear…
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Choosing What Is Right for You
One of the side effects of my old Type-A ways was the inability to know, ask for, and receive what I wanted. I viewed the world as black and white, right and wrong. Because of this, I assumed there was one right answer for what should be chosen; a right…
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Virtual Versus Actual Reality
Do you feel sweat on your brow, does your heart quicken and your throat contract, does dread and panic spread across your mind and body – when you realize you don’t have your mobile phone? Then you could have Nomophobia. This mental state, which is not recognized in the current…
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Releasing the Battle
I used to be a bull in a china shop. I was driven. I was pushy. I was rude. I thought that I had to protect myself at all times so I came out swinging. I thought I had to fight for what I wanted. I saw aggression as protection…
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Making a Dream Real
Last August I shared about our move down to Mexico and how it fulfilled my husband’s (im)possible dream. He dreamed it, wrote it down, shared it with others, and took a big risk to make it happen. We had to do a lot, risk a lot, to pursue his dream. …
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Why Try to Fit In?
Last month I was invited to what was billed as an exclusive, invite only event for women with million dollar businesses who want to increase their businesses ten-fold. No, I don’t have a million dollar business. I attended to represent the non-profit I co-founded, ARTemis, with the hopes these power…
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Is Hard Work Overrated?
Have you ever tried to make something work, but feel blocked and inefficient? Have you ever been frustrated because no matter how hard you try you just don’t get what you want? Has your hard work and sweat equity lacked the payoff you desire? For decades we have bought into…
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Understanding Others: Getting Below the Surface
The Pixar movie, Inside Out, has been nominated for an Oscar for best animated feature film. And rightly so. The film is about a young girl, Riley, whose family moves from Minnesota to San Francisco. The move is difficult on Riley as she had to leave her friends and beloved…
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What You Need to Be Happy
Are you one of the many who was dreaming of the billion dollar Powerball payoff? Were you thinking about what a life of ease and luxury you would have if you had the money? All your problems would be solved. Or would they? In a University of Illinois study they…
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Dealing with the Aftermath of Family Holidays
After the holidays, my clients fill my ears with tales of their finest teachers – their family. “Can you believe my aunt said that?” “My grandfather is always picking on me.” “Why can’t my mother-in-law just accept me as I am?” The session always starts with a long dialogue explaining…
